I've read tons of books. I love 'em! I love to see someone reading one of my favorites..There are so many! The Celestine Prophecy, The Prophet, The Four Agreements , The Road Less Traveled, The Purpose Driven Life, The Secret, The Magic of Thinking Big, Chicken Soup of EVERYTHING, All Og Mandino's books, Dale Carnegie, Zig Ziglar, Steve Covey and many, many more. They all kind of say the same thing. No need to oversimplify and wrap them all up into a sentence or two...its not that easy. They say the same thing in VERY different ways. It is the compilation of all that reading over many years that has molded, rather sculpted, the person I am now. A lovely novel I just finished called The Gift Of an Ordinary Day, speaks to its title. I try to remind myself that each day, in and of itself, is the gift. "Life is remembered in moments" it said. That leaves us the opportunity to purposfully string together moments to create the story as we want to remember it. A horrendous event, can be remembered by what comes out of it. The pain fades and you remember what you want to remember. What you choose to remember. As I have seen all too often, some choose to remember the negative. They relive and repeat the negative events,almost hard wiring them into their memory as to leave no room for anything else. I have always looked back on my life and had year by year recaps! (at least since marriage and children, that's how I celebrate New Year's Eve!) I always have somewhat naturally seen the good with the bad. Love, Death, Marriage, Birth, Friendship, New Car, New Home,Vacations, Business ups and downs, more births, more deaths, Financial highs and lows, Heart Attack, Survival, Cancer, Survival, Strength, Success and Faith! We have always belived we would overcome any obstacle! We have! I am looking to make this year of 2011 a year of Purposeful Choices! Wishing everyone the patience and ability to expeience life one moment at a time and to choose to create the story of their life as a string of positive experiences. Happy New Year!
Taking a moment to savor a great day. It poured today, there was traffic, the Dunkin Donuts clerk messed up my coffee (it had sugar),ADP messed up my payroll.... yet today was a special day. It was not really any more special than other days...but today I remembered to notice all the good. So often I screech through a day, sliding into the end, wishing it was over so I could start fresh on a new day. "Tomorrow will be better" I say. I think I am having the right positive mental attitude. What I am forgetting is that each minute is a fresh start. TODAY, all day, as things HAPPENED, I thought (quietly in my soul) about the positive! I really soaked up the good in my day and CHOSE to ignore the bad. I still had to DEAL with the bad, but I did not allow it to detract from the good. It was a conscious choice. So as I get ready to close my eyes tonight, I recapped ... I woke up feeling rested, from a funny dream. I had time to enjoy the morning with Glenn. I met a new client that I really believe I can help! I was complimented by a colleague for whom I have a lot of respect. I had a special moment with Julie. I watched a High School Football Game, because I wanted to. I laughed. I loved. I lived. I hope tomorrow I remember that every new minute allows me to wipe the slate clean and focus on the good! Peace to ALL! Goodnight
Every once and a while, I stop and take inventory; not of stuff...I covered that in an earlier blog. I take inventory of my life and what is in it. I am so incredibly proud of our kids. The kind of people they are...their compassion for others...their trust in us as parents...their dependence on us to provide a safe and loving home. Wow...we are doing that! We have raised them to be the kind of people that you can really be proud of. I can not tell you how much I am SURE we have invested well in them! We have put our heart and soul into teaching them what we know, academically, emotionally and spiritually. They are so amazing. I truly love spending time with them, listening to them laugh, getting their jokes and feeling somewhat responsible for their existance! What a trip! People tell us we are good parents...but I think it is more than that. We are good people. We are real people that believe in the simple truths in life...God, love, family, honesty, integrity, ambition and the true belief that we all control our own destiny! Life is a gift! Enjoy and for God's sake..HAVE FUN!!!
If I knew then what I know now…I would not be the person I am. Thank God for the gift of time. Life is a collection of experiences that mold and shape us into the person we are. Sometimes as a parent we want to protect our children from those experiences, any of them, that hurt. The ones that hurt the ego or wound the spirit, even if only temporarily. We want to protect our youngin’ and keep them safe under our wing. We guard them furiously if anyone ruffles their feathers. I think the magic of being a good parent is to be there to shape the lesson. It starts early in the toddler years. When another child takes your child’s toy; you want to go take it back and give it back to your child. It would be faster that way... and much, much easier. But what would your child learn? That their parent is there to fix it. That is nice and comforting but it only works right then, with that situation. What happens when they are in the school yard and you are not there. Based on the biblical quote “give a man a fish feed him for a day, teach a man to fish feed him for a lifetime” You must teach your child at every moment possible. You must shape the moment. “Did that make you sad when he took your toy?” “Let’s go tell him that and ask for it back” That works well at age 2 but at age 8 and 18 they need different tools. That’s why parenting is an ongoing process. Each age comes with it new situations that need shaping. As the years go by a parent would be foolish to think that they will hold the monopoly on shaping their experiences. As we allow our children to experience more of life, they reach out to friends, teachers, music groups, TV, other family members and complete strangers. The key to it is to maintain a trusting relationship with your child so you still "get to be in the loop". Keep in mind your child is not living life on a “track” that will replay your life experiences. They will be different. Your experiences will only give you an opportunity to shape an experience the way YOU see it. Guess what…That may not be as accurate as you think! Try to step back, put your own feelings and belief system aside and hear your children. They may possibly have a valuable lesson to teach you. If any life lesson has a solid foundation in trust and honesty it adds to the shaping of the soul. Terri
“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” W Clement Stone. An incredible phrase that has been a part of our family dialog since we can remember. While it also doubles as a spelling lesson, demonstrating the i before e concept. It really is the most powerful phrase I know. But the believe part is the key ingredient. It is like the sugar in a sugar cookie! Many books on the topic of positive energy, success and the powers from within, speak to the importance of choosing the right language and being conscious of your thought process. Speaking and thinking in the positive. "I will be healthy" instead of "I will not get sick"..."I will succeed" not "I will not fail". The Universe does not recognize NO, NOT, WON'T, CAN'T etc.. The Universe hears sick or fail and sickness and failure is created. Consciousness of this process is HOW to conceive. That is the first part...NEXT, you must truly BELIEVE. Recently, my cousin asked me if I ever thought I would be the owner of my own company, back when I was in school. I thought about it and replied "Yes I did, I just did not know what business". The same person asked me if I believed it would TAKE OFF! I explained I knew it would. I BELIEVE IT, I KNOW IT but my actions have to support my beliefs as much as my beliefs have to guide my actions. I can not sit back and wait for it to happen. I must create my own destiny. Too often, people are so close to the success they dream of but they don't believe in themselves or the circumstances ENOUGH to plow though the obstacles that pull us back and fill us with self doubt. Conceive your plan....believe in your plan...execute your plan..you will achieve!
The emotion of empathy is when someone feels the emotions of another being. We use this word casually. Many do. "I feel such empathy for you" "I can feel your pain" There are people, many of them that actually do feel others energy. Be it positive or negative. These people have to be more selective of who they allow into their world. There are degrees of course, as to the level of the feelings and the consistency of the empathic experiences.
From my experience, those that have more intense experiences have a harder time in intimate relationship as the person with whom they are intimate has to be at peace with themselves so they do not negatively impact the other. There is nothing more exciting in life to have two people that find each other, that can live harmoniously together... What a blessing!
I am clear that those that "feel" energy at any level are just more attuned to that "frequency". It is like tuning in a radio. Imagine not being able to change a station that was playing something that you found offensive. The empath is stuck with that station, they are tuned into those around them good or bad. Most want to CHOOSE good. They literally must say (usually to themselves) this person is NOT GOOD FOR ME. Choose to be around people that make you feel good.
Those that know there is a "frequency", and how to control it, have an unbelievable ability to attract, recognize and appreciate others with the same ability. We (I consider myself one) FEED off the positive energy in others.
As a psychic once said to me "You want to see windows going up and down and the lights going on and off, Its not like that," He was right. What I want is to show others what I feel. Some of you understand this first hand, some wish they could and some have no idea what they are missing. Just remember, even if you are not conscious of it, the energy is exchanging. If you feel my positive energy, on a consistent basis...I mean really feel it...it is because I choose to share it with you. I do this because it is a two way street and I like your energy too. Everything is on purpose.
Join the revolution...I was a laggard in the Facebook craze. Joining as friends prompted "when you are on medical leave you will be bored...join it will be fun". I did. But the pain killers made it too hard to see the screen, so time went on and as I recovered I dabbled about once a month. I have become more of a "regular", slowly learning the features and the importance of privacy. What not to put on FB and how others use it. This is what I have observed: FOR SOME, FB has become a relationship tool...voyeurism at its best. Who is she friends with? Why did he become friends with her? She went on FB at 12:08am she said she was asleep? He said he did not have a FB account but his laptop has a log from another name? Remember when you had to snoop the old fashioned way, credit card receipts and phone logs..moving right along... FOR SOME, FB is a parenting tool: Bobby has a new girlfriend. Suzie hates me. Allen got an F in history. Mary lost her cell phone. Here is a concept, talk to you kids. If they trust you they may tell you what's up and you won't have to read it on line...But I just may be naive. We'll see. FOR SOME, FB is a way of breaking off a friendship or not facilitating one. Kevin de-friended me last week because I did not invite his sister Jen to the party. I can't believe he took it so seriously. Jen just wrote on my page that my parties suck. I de-friended Jen, She is such an A$$. Are we talking 3rd grade or what?? FOR SOME, FB is an escape into another world where life was more simple. I am growing fake potatoes on my fake farm with my friend fake farmer Jim. Jim never gets mad at me as long as I share my lettuce. I have cooked extra quiches in my cafe and I will give them to you...will you be my friend.. Escape is nice...have you tried the bubble bath? No really, Fun, Fantasy it's all good... This tells me these people are comfortable enough to chill out and relax with some fun and meaningless activities..so go ahead and share no one is obligated to click on the links... FOR SOME, FB is a way to connect...similar to the way MySpace used to be...but for now it is more popular so it is easier to find your friends from 7th grade etc... These people connect, share and relive old moments in high school or college...Remember to de-friend your kids first! Thanks for getting me on to FB...I will jump in and out, stalk, supervise, be silly, escape, connect and de-friend you the day you say something I don't like. ...one click...your gone.
Have you ever had the experience of having to enter some one's home after they died to go through their things? It is an unbelievably personal task. Perhaps a grandmother, aunt, parent, friend or the like...It is a soulful experience that brings you to a place where you feel incredibly connected to the person and yet, at the same time, saddened that all you have left of them, physically, is the "stuff". You quickly comfort yourself with the layers of memories that soothe the loss and fill the void. This activity makes you keenly aware of your own things. I can not imagine someone else in my stuff. Moreover as a way of protecting myself from this loving invasion, I am clear, I want less stuff. I am not dying...or at least I am not aware that I am...but I do know that I will, someday. At the rate of "stuff accumulation" I am going... my things will overtake me by about age 57.... So I have a new goal...to purge...purge...purge. I will start with my own stuff...I will condense. I will scan. I will archive. I will sell. I will give away. I will not collect stuff anymore. Maybe when I die, someday in the way distant future, someone will say...she didn't have much stuff...but BOY DID SHE HAVE FUN! I have a lot of work to do! Terri
The year ends...we look back on it reflecting on the good and the bad... We then think about the upcoming year and how we can improve our outcome! We make resolutions...we resolve to do something differently!! We don't need to wait until a new year starts to take stock of our lives and try to make improvements. This should be a daily event. We forget that we have the ability to change and be in control of our lives. We deserve the control. For those that think they are trapped in a job, a marriage, a city, a country, an addiction, any circumstance at all...they need to remember that they deserve to not give anyone or anything control of their life. Make changes starting with today...everyday...not just in the beginning of a new calendar year...Everyday is the beginning of the rest of your life. Terri
What a year! Life and the lessons that come from it are always good! God has a plan; who knows what it is....We had a ride this year....but nothing that Glenn's heart attack had not prepared us for! As we have said before "we do adversity well". We roll with the punches and remember to focus on the positive. We have so much to be thankful for and not a day goes by that we don't feel that. Last year I started writing "a book" or something to that effect. The 6 Secrets to Dealing with Crisis" My book was lost with my computer when it was stolen out of my car...but the thoughts are in my head and I am hoping to recreate it over this year! I will use my new Blog to work through my thoughts...people may read it or not...I am writing it for me! I wish you peace, health and happiness in the year ahead. I wish you all the ability to find peace in the past and move through the future without the weight of history. Each day is a blessing, a gift and an opportunity to experience life. Choose to enjoy the moment! Love to All, Terri