About a year ago, when I was opening the Walden program, I decided I wanted to memorialize our clients that graciously let us be a part of their lives. We have a wall of framed photos but not enough people see them. We want to "introduce" them here...
TLC's Client Corner will be our way of sharing why we do what we do...and for whom we do it! Stay tuned...
Hello to All!
This was my old blog! Now, its the new blog! Many years ago I started it...I took a giant break from writing and grew my business with the help of a great team of people.
I now have 2 Adult Day Programs (Wappingers Falls and Walden, NY), and cover 11 counties of NYS with 25 amazing staff members. I'm very proud of the work they do!
I have RE-started this blog to have a central place to share what we do, who we do it for, and why we do it!
There are 3 categories of the blog!
1. TLC's Client Corner - Highlights you should hear about!
2. Talkin' with TLC
3. Interviews with "The Interesting and Special"
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The Power of Believing in Yourself. "How do you do it?" I hear that a lot. There are so many pieces of my life puzzle. How do I do it? My business, my family, the household, paperwork, my mom, 2 in college, 1 in High school, family health issues, friends, family and fun! THEY ARE ALL IMPORTANT!
Life is a bit of a juggling act, for me, but I would not change it. IT'S ABOUT TAKING CHANCES, FOLLOWING THROUGH AND BELIEVING THAT IT WILL WORK OUT. It sounds so cliché, but it's that simple. DON'T ask me how...but I always know it will work out.
SOMETIMES, it about help from others, sometimes it's just DIVINE intervention! IT IS ABOUT FAITH! You can't sit back and hope and pray...you have to do the work, and focus on forward progress. Make a plan and work the plan, as they say, BUT remember the plan will change (unless you are psychic) you can't plan out all the variables.
Oh, and don't forget to ask for help when you need it!
This applies to all aspects of life!
I've read tons of books. I love 'em! I love to see someone reading one of my favorites..There are so many! The Celestine Prophecy, The Prophet, The Four Agreements , The Road Less Traveled, The Purpose Driven Life, The Secret, The Magic of Thinking Big, Chicken Soup of EVERYTHING, All Og Mandino's books, Dale Carnegie, Zig Ziglar, Steve Covey and many, many more. They all kind of say the same thing. No need to oversimplify and wrap them all up into a sentence or two...its not that easy. They say the same thing in VERY different ways. It is the compilation of all that reading over many years that has molded, rather sculpted, the person I am now. A lovely novel I just finished called The Gift Of an Ordinary Day, speaks to its title. I try to remind myself that each day, in and of itself, is the gift. "Life is remembered in moments" it said. That leaves us the opportunity to purposfully string together moments to create the story as we want to remember it. A horrendous event, can be remembered by what comes out of it. The pain fades and you remember what you want to remember. What you choose to remember. As I have seen all too often, some choose to remember the negative. They relive and repeat the negative events,almost hard wiring them into their memory as to leave no room for anything else. I have always looked back on my life and had year by year recaps! (at least since marriage and children, that's how I celebrate New Year's Eve!) I always have somewhat naturally seen the good with the bad. Love, Death, Marriage, Birth, Friendship, New Car, New Home,Vacations, Business ups and downs, more births, more deaths, Financial highs and lows, Heart Attack, Survival, Cancer, Survival, Strength, Success and Faith! We have always belived we would overcome any obstacle! We have! I am looking to make this year of 2011 a year of Purposeful Choices! Wishing everyone the patience and ability to expeience life one moment at a time and to choose to create the story of their life as a string of positive experiences. Happy New Year!
Taking a moment to savor a great day. It poured today, there was traffic, the Dunkin Donuts clerk messed up my coffee (it had sugar),ADP messed up my payroll.... yet today was a special day. It was not really any more special than other days...but today I remembered to notice all the good. So often I screech through a day, sliding into the end, wishing it was over so I could start fresh on a new day. "Tomorrow will be better" I say. I think I am having the right positive mental attitude. What I am forgetting is that each minute is a fresh start. TODAY, all day, as things HAPPENED, I thought (quietly in my soul) about the positive! I really soaked up the good in my day and CHOSE to ignore the bad. I still had to DEAL with the bad, but I did not allow it to detract from the good. It was a conscious choice. So as I get ready to close my eyes tonight, I recapped ... I woke up feeling rested, from a funny dream. I had time to enjoy the morning with Glenn. I met a new client that I really believe I can help! I was complimented by a colleague for whom I have a lot of respect. I had a special moment with Julie. I watched a High School Football Game, because I wanted to. I laughed. I loved. I lived. I hope tomorrow I remember that every new minute allows me to wipe the slate clean and focus on the good! Peace to ALL! Goodnight
Every once and a while, I stop and take inventory; not of stuff...I covered that in an earlier blog. I take inventory of my life and what is in it. I am so incredibly proud of our kids. The kind of people they are...their compassion for others...their trust in us as parents...their dependence on us to provide a safe and loving home. Wow...we are doing that! We have raised them to be the kind of people that you can really be proud of. I can not tell you how much I am SURE we have invested well in them! We have put our heart and soul into teaching them what we know, academically, emotionally and spiritually. They are so amazing. I truly love spending time with them, listening to them laugh, getting their jokes and feeling somewhat responsible for their existance! What a trip! People tell us we are good parents...but I think it is more than that. We are good people. We are real people that believe in the simple truths in life...God, love, family, honesty, integrity, ambition and the true belief that we all control our own destiny! Life is a gift! Enjoy and for God's sake..HAVE FUN!!!
I often think that the gift of life is to give to others. So many go through life trying to "GET", to acquire, to accumulate more, more, more! When you figure out that when you give you get back tenfold, IT IS SO MUCH MORE FUN TO GIVE. The fun thing is, some of the true givers...never ask for anything. They have no expectations of getting anything in return for their giving. That is giving! If you have an expectation about a return on your gift, favor, kind word ...it was not given in the right context. You can't expect a return or accolades for what you have done. When you do it right, it feels right. Give for the sake of giving...hold a door...say a kind word...offer a ride...bake a cake...visit someone ill...call a friend...remember a birthday...write a note to a pen pal in India...do it because you want to! It feels good!!! Love Ter
If I knew then what I know now…I would not be the person I am. Thank God for the gift of time. Life is a collection of experiences that mold and shape us into the person we are. Sometimes as a parent we want to protect our children from those experiences, any of them, that hurt. The ones that hurt the ego or wound the spirit, even if only temporarily. We want to protect our youngin’ and keep them safe under our wing. We guard them furiously if anyone ruffles their feathers. I think the magic of being a good parent is to be there to shape the lesson. It starts early in the toddler years. When another child takes your child’s toy; you want to go take it back and give it back to your child. It would be faster that way... and much, much easier. But what would your child learn? That their parent is there to fix it. That is nice and comforting but it only works right then, with that situation. What happens when they are in the school yard and you are not there. Based on the biblical quote “give a man a fish feed him for a day, teach a man to fish feed him for a lifetime” You must teach your child at every moment possible. You must shape the moment. “Did that make you sad when he took your toy?” “Let’s go tell him that and ask for it back” That works well at age 2 but at age 8 and 18 they need different tools. That’s why parenting is an ongoing process. Each age comes with it new situations that need shaping. As the years go by a parent would be foolish to think that they will hold the monopoly on shaping their experiences. As we allow our children to experience more of life, they reach out to friends, teachers, music groups, TV, other family members and complete strangers. The key to it is to maintain a trusting relationship with your child so you still "get to be in the loop". Keep in mind your child is not living life on a “track” that will replay your life experiences. They will be different. Your experiences will only give you an opportunity to shape an experience the way YOU see it. Guess what…That may not be as accurate as you think! Try to step back, put your own feelings and belief system aside and hear your children. They may possibly have a valuable lesson to teach you. If any life lesson has a solid foundation in trust and honesty it adds to the shaping of the soul. Terri
“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” W Clement Stone. An incredible phrase that has been a part of our family dialog since we can remember. While it also doubles as a spelling lesson, demonstrating the i before e concept. It really is the most powerful phrase I know. But the believe part is the key ingredient. It is like the sugar in a sugar cookie! Many books on the topic of positive energy, success and the powers from within, speak to the importance of choosing the right language and being conscious of your thought process. Speaking and thinking in the positive. "I will be healthy" instead of "I will not get sick"..."I will succeed" not "I will not fail". The Universe does not recognize NO, NOT, WON'T, CAN'T etc.. The Universe hears sick or fail and sickness and failure is created. Consciousness of this process is HOW to conceive. That is the first part...NEXT, you must truly BELIEVE. Recently, my cousin asked me if I ever thought I would be the owner of my own company, back when I was in school. I thought about it and replied "Yes I did, I just did not know what business". The same person asked me if I believed it would TAKE OFF! I explained I knew it would. I BELIEVE IT, I KNOW IT but my actions have to support my beliefs as much as my beliefs have to guide my actions. I can not sit back and wait for it to happen. I must create my own destiny. Too often, people are so close to the success they dream of but they don't believe in themselves or the circumstances ENOUGH to plow though the obstacles that pull us back and fill us with self doubt. Conceive your plan....believe in your plan...execute your plan..you will achieve!
The emotion of empathy is when someone feels the emotions of another being. We use this word casually. Many do. "I feel such empathy for you" "I can feel your pain" There are people, many of them that actually do feel others energy. Be it positive or negative. These people have to be more selective of who they allow into their world. There are degrees of course, as to the level of the feelings and the consistency of the empathic experiences.
From my experience, those that have more intense experiences have a harder time in intimate relationship as the person with whom they are intimate has to be at peace with themselves so they do not negatively impact the other. There is nothing more exciting in life to have two people that find each other, that can live harmoniously together... What a blessing!
I am clear that those that "feel" energy at any level are just more attuned to that "frequency". It is like tuning in a radio. Imagine not being able to change a station that was playing something that you found offensive. The empath is stuck with that station, they are tuned into those around them good or bad. Most want to CHOOSE good. They literally must say (usually to themselves) this person is NOT GOOD FOR ME. Choose to be around people that make you feel good.
Those that know there is a "frequency", and how to control it, have an unbelievable ability to attract, recognize and appreciate others with the same ability. We (I consider myself one) FEED off the positive energy in others.
As a psychic once said to me "You want to see windows going up and down and the lights going on and off, Its not like that," He was right. What I want is to show others what I feel. Some of you understand this first hand, some wish they could and some have no idea what they are missing. Just remember, even if you are not conscious of it, the energy is exchanging. If you feel my positive energy, on a consistent basis...I mean really feel it...it is because I choose to share it with you. I do this because it is a two way street and I like your energy too. Everything is on purpose.