Join the revolution...I was a laggard in the Facebook craze. Joining as friends prompted "when you are on medical leave you will be bored...join it will be fun". I did. But the pain killers made it too hard to see the screen, so time went on and as I recovered I dabbled about once a month. I have become more of a "regular", slowly learning the features and the importance of privacy. What not to put on FB and how others use it. This is what I have observed: FOR SOME, FB has become a relationship tool...voyeurism at its best. Who is she friends with? Why did he become friends with her? She went on FB at 12:08am she said she was asleep? He said he did not have a FB account but his laptop has a log from another name? Remember when you had to snoop the old fashioned way, credit card receipts and phone logs..moving right along... FOR SOME, FB is a parenting tool: Bobby has a new girlfriend. Suzie hates me. Allen got an F in history. Mary lost her cell phone. Here is a concept, talk to you kids. If they trust you they may tell you what's up and you won't have to read it on line...But I just may be naive. We'll see. FOR SOME, FB is a way of breaking off a friendship or not facilitating one. Kevin de-friended me last week because I did not invite his sister Jen to the party. I can't believe he took it so seriously. Jen just wrote on my page that my parties suck. I de-friended Jen, She is such an A$$. Are we talking 3rd grade or what?? FOR SOME, FB is an escape into another world where life was more simple. I am growing fake potatoes on my fake farm with my friend fake farmer Jim. Jim never gets mad at me as long as I share my lettuce. I have cooked extra quiches in my cafe and I will give them to you...will you be my friend.. Escape is nice...have you tried the bubble bath? No really, Fun, Fantasy it's all good... This tells me these people are comfortable enough to chill out and relax with some fun and meaningless activities..so go ahead and share no one is obligated to click on the links... FOR SOME, FB is a way to connect...similar to the way MySpace used to be...but for now it is more popular so it is easier to find your friends from 7th grade etc... These people connect, share and relive old moments in high school or college...Remember to de-friend your kids first! Thanks for getting me on to FB...I will jump in and out, stalk, supervise, be silly, escape, connect and de-friend you the day you say something I don't like. ...one click...your gone.
Have you ever had the experience of having to enter some one's home after they died to go through their things? It is an unbelievably personal task. Perhaps a grandmother, aunt, parent, friend or the like...It is a soulful experience that brings you to a place where you feel incredibly connected to the person and yet, at the same time, saddened that all you have left of them, physically, is the "stuff". You quickly comfort yourself with the layers of memories that soothe the loss and fill the void. This activity makes you keenly aware of your own things. I can not imagine someone else in my stuff. Moreover as a way of protecting myself from this loving invasion, I am clear, I want less stuff. I am not dying...or at least I am not aware that I am...but I do know that I will, someday. At the rate of "stuff accumulation" I am going... my things will overtake me by about age 57.... So I have a new goal...to purge...purge...purge. I will start with my own stuff...I will condense. I will scan. I will archive. I will sell. I will give away. I will not collect stuff anymore. Maybe when I die, someday in the way distant future, someone will say...she didn't have much stuff...but BOY DID SHE HAVE FUN! I have a lot of work to do! Terri
The year ends...we look back on it reflecting on the good and the bad... We then think about the upcoming year and how we can improve our outcome! We make resolutions...we resolve to do something differently!! We don't need to wait until a new year starts to take stock of our lives and try to make improvements. This should be a daily event. We forget that we have the ability to change and be in control of our lives. We deserve the control. For those that think they are trapped in a job, a marriage, a city, a country, an addiction, any circumstance at all...they need to remember that they deserve to not give anyone or anything control of their life. Make changes starting with today...everyday...not just in the beginning of a new calendar year...Everyday is the beginning of the rest of your life. Terri
What a year! Life and the lessons that come from it are always good! God has a plan; who knows what it is....We had a ride this year....but nothing that Glenn's heart attack had not prepared us for! As we have said before "we do adversity well". We roll with the punches and remember to focus on the positive. We have so much to be thankful for and not a day goes by that we don't feel that. Last year I started writing "a book" or something to that effect. The 6 Secrets to Dealing with Crisis" My book was lost with my computer when it was stolen out of my car...but the thoughts are in my head and I am hoping to recreate it over this year! I will use my new Blog to work through my thoughts...people may read it or not...I am writing it for me! I wish you peace, health and happiness in the year ahead. I wish you all the ability to find peace in the past and move through the future without the weight of history. Each day is a blessing, a gift and an opportunity to experience life. Choose to enjoy the moment! Love to All, Terri