Facebook and Friends

Join the revolution...I was a laggard in the Facebook craze. Joining as friends prompted "when you are on medical leave you will be bored...join it will be fun". I did. But the pain killers made it too hard to see the screen, so time went on and as I recovered I dabbled about once a month. I have become more of a "regular", slowly learning the features and the importance of privacy. What not to put on FB and how others use it. This is what I have observed: FOR SOME, FB has become a relationship tool...voyeurism at its best. Who is she friends with? Why did he become friends with her? She went on FB at 12:08am she said she was asleep? He said he did not have a FB account but his laptop has a log from another name? Remember when you had to snoop the old fashioned way, credit card receipts and phone logs..moving right along... FOR SOME, FB is a parenting tool: Bobby has a new girlfriend. Suzie hates me. Allen got an F in history. Mary lost her cell phone. Here is a concept, talk to you kids. If they trust you they may tell you what's up and you won't have to read it on line...But I just may be naive. We'll see. FOR SOME, FB is a way of breaking off a friendship or not facilitating one. Kevin de-friended me last week because I did not invite his sister Jen to the party. I can't believe he took it so seriously. Jen just wrote on my page that my parties suck. I de-friended Jen, She is such an A$$. Are we talking 3rd grade or what?? FOR SOME, FB is an escape into another world where life was more simple. I am growing fake potatoes on my fake farm with my friend fake farmer Jim. Jim never gets mad at me as long as I share my lettuce. I have cooked extra quiches in my cafe and I will give them to you...will you be my friend.. Escape is nice...have you tried the bubble bath? No really, Fun, Fantasy it's all good... This tells me these people are comfortable enough to chill out and relax with some fun and meaningless activities..so go ahead and share no one is obligated to click on the links... FOR SOME, FB is a way to connect...similar to the way MySpace used to be...but for now it is more popular so it is easier to find your friends from 7th grade etc... These people connect, share and relive old moments in high school or college...Remember to de-friend your kids first! Thanks for getting me on to FB...I will jump in and out, stalk, supervise, be silly, escape, connect and de-friend you the day you say something I don't like. ...one click...your gone.

​Love Ter